For men, how do you rest?

My follow-up

One of the hardest things for men—and I’m only going to speak for men because I’m a man and can’t speak for other genders—isn’t working hard. For most of us, working hard comes naturally. It’s ingrained in us through upbringing, societal expectations, and our own drive. All the men I know are hardworking.

But you know what nobody taught us? How to rest hard. How to truly relax. How to slow down, turn it off, and take it easy. Nobody coached us on how to unwind, go to a spa, play tennis, shoot hoops, or just let our minds rest without guilt. Sure, a lot of men play sports or have hobbies, but for others, we’re on this autopilot where our subconscious always wants us to work.

Even when we try to relax, it doesn’t always feel like relaxation is happening. I think that’s because society doesn’t really talk about rest—not in a meaningful way. At least, that’s how it seems from my perspective.

But I’m curious about your perspective. Does your mind always feel compelled to work? Do you feel guilty when you take a vacation—whether it’s for a week, a day, or even just a few hours? What’s your relationship with rest?

Please feel free to share your thoughts. Not necessarily looking for agreement. I’d love to hear how "rest" happens for you—or doesn’t.